The Cardinal Rule of Life - "Never stay where  you are not appreciated."       This applies to all phases of life - jobs, sports, and social activities but it especially applies when dealing with single women.   Bad Vibes She won't make herself available. Even though they may sound like valid excuses, if she were interested, she would make herself available to see you. If arranging a date to get together becomes a struggle and you are the only one working on the problem,   MOVE ON Conversations will be awkward and forced. After all, you are the only one trying to keep it going.   MOVE ON.  Conversations and the tone in her voice will be neutral. Not necessarily negative, but they will be absent of that up-beat positive mood that an interested girl gives. MOVE ON.  The most important thing to remember is that most women don't want to hurt your feelings. So, if they aren't interested, they will be just neutral in their tone and expect you to pick up the fact that there is an absence of a "come on" in their manner. Many men will assume that since a girl hasn't come out and said "drop dead," then maybe she is interested. FAT HOPE.        If a girl is not interested in you, then that is that. NOTHING you can do is going to change it <sobs>. Review the previous chapter and if none of the signs are present don't waste time with people who aren't into you. Even if she looks like the girl of your dreams, it will lead nowhere so move on. By hanging around this girl, you portray an image to her and everyone else that you are a person who is found unattractive by women. And worse, you are used to it. Loser. After all, if you had other women who were attracted to you why would you be hanging around her?      When are you not being appreciated? When you are the only one putting energy into the relationship. You are the glue holding the whole thing together. She is neither showing nor giving any effort or energy towards being with you. She's not making herself available to get together. She lacks enthusiasm. In sum, when trying to get something to develop is a struggle. If you refuse to face the reality of it all, she will eventually dump you and this will hurt you even more.      If you experience these symptoms and recognize the lack of "magic" present when two people are mutually interested, don't try any remedies - just leave. Don't make a speech, or a scene, or an issue. Simply bow out gracefully and pursue girls who are interested in you. You will be doing yourself and everyone else a big favor.       Hey! Wait a sec. This only applies to you if you have been going out for some time. If you haven't even gone out with her, there's absolutely no way to tell if she thinks you're a jerk or not so why not ask her out anyway?