So you want to ask your crush out. But do you know how to? Asking someone out on a date is a precise science, one that has constantly been bungled by thousands, if not millions of Don Juan wanna-bees. Below, you'll find some rules you should follow if you want to get a date.

Things To Note


Avoid asking a single girl out for the first time on a Saturday or Friday night.

Why?

  • The odds of her being busy are so high that she may have to turn you down, which creates bad vibes right off the bat.
  • It tells her that you don't have a date for the weekend with someone else and therefore you may have trouble getting dates.
  • The weekend implies formal dating, so the pressure is on. The last thing you would want to do is pressurize her.
  • If you do get the date, she may have to turn down other offers because of her commitment to you, and go into the evening regretting having to turn down others. After all, she has no way of knowing whether she is going to have a good time with you or not.

On the other hand, if you ask her out during the week:

  • You imply that you are busy on the weekend. In other words, you are involved with other girls.
  • The odds of her being available are greater.
  • Weeknights imply casual-no pressure, a good atmosphere to get to know her.
  • You have turned a dull weeknight into a good time for her - good vibes right off the bat.

 

    Now, what's the best way to ask someone out? Here's what NOT to do: "Would you like to go out with me?" This may sound like a logical way to express your interest in her but believe me, unless you're a Male Supermodel, it rarely works.

    This does two things. Firstly, it sets you up for rejection. It's easy for her to say "No, I'm not free." (For a complete list on how to tell if a girl hates you, see our section on Flirting, how to tell if she hates you)You know she doesn't want to go out with you simply because you have not even specified a time yet. Secondly, you feel scared to ask her out because you know how easy it is for her to reject you.

    Instead, why don't you say this. It's proven to work. Memorise this opening line. Remember it. Bookmark this page and keep looking at it. Never forget it.

"Hey! I would really like to get together and do something with you sometime"

    Now, she can't say,"Sorry, I'm not free" (The most popular rejection line) because you haven't set the time yet. In fact, you haven't even asked her for a date yet! Nows your chance to see her reaction. If it's negative, forget about it. Remember, you haven't asked her out yet so you haven't been rejected! Using this method will protect you from rejection and make you more confident the next time you try and ask a single woman out. But if she lights up and says "OK" or if she emits any one of the signals explained in Flirting, How to tell if a single girl likes you, continue with:

"You know, I would really like to go out with you when you're free. How about Lunch at ______ on Tuesday?"

    

   Firstly, she can't say,"Sorry not free." simply because it'll make her sound like a complete idiot. By all means try saying it out aloud yourself. Secondly, she has to be free sometime right? Using this proven techinique will ensure that you score when asking single women out. For furthur information on opening lines, turn to our section on Flirting, asking a single girl out by using proven opening lines.

    Well, if you've succesfully navigated past this treacherous obstacle in your dating life, hop over to our next section on The First Date.